17th February Trenython Manor St Austell

Wedding Planning Guide


First things first, is where and when.

If you plan to get married in church you will need to meet with the vicar or priest.

You should take along your baptism certificate.  The vicar will explain the reading of  the banns which are usually called in the church on three consecutive Sundays.They are the public announcement of your intention to marry.   If you and your fiance live in different parishes then the banns must be read in both places.  You will need proof that the banns have been called in your fiances church.  This is usually a certificate.You can marry within three months of the banns being read.  It is worth asking for details of other couples marrying on the same day as it may be possible to share the cost of the church flowers.

If you intend to marry at a register office your first step is to contact the Registrar.

Both bride and groom must give notice in person at the register office.  You will both have to produce evidence of your name, age, nationality ( i.e. a current valid passport) and marital status and if this is a second marriage you will have to provide proof of the divorce decree absolute or the former spouses death certificate.  Photocopies are not acceptable.  There is a fee for giving notice and you must wait 15 days before the wedding.

Reception location.

We are blessed with wonderful scenery in Cornwall.  Consider the scenery you will have access to at your location or on the journey from the wedding to the reception for photo opportunities.  Price is a consideration that cannot be ignored.  Make sure all the extras are included and a useful test is the bar price.  You do not want your guests to be charged £4.50 for a tonic water and complain about it for the rest of your life. If the package makes financial sense how do you feel about the people you must trust and rely on and can you see yourself having a wonderful day there?

Summer season in Cornwall sees availability diminish and prices increase.

It may be an option to consider a marquee if you have access to suitable flat land or even your local village hall can be dressed to your taste at a reasonable price.

The dress.

The wedding dress sets the tone for the rest of  the outfits.  Do not take lots of people with you it is your opinion that counts.  A committee never designed anything beautiful.  Look at the dress in different light and see yourself in daylight.  Do not choose the dress for the surroundings choose it for you.  Can you see yourself getting married in it or are there things you would change.  If there are,  it may not be the right dress.  Does it make you smile and feel excited at the prospect of your fiance turning to see you walk down the isle in it.

The photographs.

The reminder of the day that will last a lifetime should not be entrusted to a well-meaning amateur.  One good photo of granny at Christmas does not a photographer make.  A professional has back-up kit and experience in crowd control. You have to share your day with this person so pick someone you are comfortable with and you share their eye for a photograph.  It is worth visiting the locations with the photographer so that you can agree the best locations for photographs before the day and make a contingency plan for rain.

Who pays for what?

It may well be that you pay for it all.  But if you are lucky enough to be offered financial assistance then traditionally responsibility breaks-down like this:- The brides parents pay for:-  Announcements in the newspapers. All the wedding stationery. Brides and bridesdmaids dresses.  Transport for the bridal party to the ceremony and from the ceremony to the reception.  Flowers for the church and the reception. The reception itself.  The wedding cake. The groom traditionally pays for:-  All the fees – whether for church officials (including vicar, organist, choir, bellringers) or for the registrar and civil licence.  Bouquets for the bride and bridesmaids, sprays of flowers for the brides mother and buttonholes for himself, the best man and the ushers.Engagement and wedding ring for the bride.  Presents for the best man and the brides attendants.Transport to the ceremony for himself and the best man and to the reception for himself and the bride. The honeymoon.


Invitations traditionally are sent out six weeks before the wedding but being practical you need to know who is coming well in advance for catering and finances.  The stationery needs to reflect the colours and style of the day.  If you have special flowers in mind for your bouquets and buttonholes tell the designer so that elements can be included.


The choices are infinite but the practicalities are simple.  Will the bride fit in the car in the dress? Make sure any time limits do  not restrict your day and possibilities for photo opportunities. Ribbons and flowers are usually included but check what you get for your money.

The cake.

The tradition is for a multi-tiered fruit cake but your choices are almost unlimited.  If you want to keep the top tier for the christening of your first child as was the tradition you must choose an appropriate cake mix that will last.  It can save money on the dessert at the reception  if you cut the cake early and distribute it. The design should reflect the colours and theme of  the day.

From left to right as you look at the table:-  Chief bridesmaid, Grooms Father, Brides Mother, Groom, Bride, Brides Father, Grooms Mother, Best Man.


The cost of your flowers will depend upon the time of the year and the exotic nature of the flowers.  There are no rules as to what you can have, it is very much up to you and your florist to design a bouquet that reflects your dreams of the day.


As much as we hate to think that things can go wrong they sometimes do.  It is possible to arrange insurance cover for loss of deposits due to cancellation or postponement. As always with any insurance, read the small print to check what you are getting.

Goodbye and good luck.

The bride and groom should always be the first to leave the reception.  The best man announces their departure and if the bride has not already thrown her bouquet she should do so before departing.  This gives your guests the opportunity to see you off and wish you well on your journey and life together.
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